How do I know if I’m getting too personal at work?
What makes someone professional? The clothes they wear? Maybe. The vocabulary in emails? Let’s be honest no one says “therefore” in real life but in a work email, seems totally legit.
Here’s one thing to think about when trying to be professional: process your feelings about whatever is happening BEFORE or AFTER the moment with your boss or team. I’m not saying to be inauthentic or not feel, simply, don’t expect your bosses or team to do for you.
The point of separating professional and personal is to keep the momentum in the project or task at hand. If you can focus on that (and filter your feelings for another conversation) you’ll be killing the game.
If you’re wondering how to handle yourself when you are PISSED and don’t know what to say in the moment, here are some ideas:
“I have some concerns, let me process and get back to you by [insert day/time].”
“When do we need to have a decision by?”
“What do we need to make sure to accomplish today?”
Stick to the task at hand, practice processing feelings of disappointment, fear, or sadness at a different time with safe people (that don’t pay you) and watch the tension release from some of your difficult work scenarios.